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Your loved one just had a new baby and you so desperately want to get your hands on that squishy little ball of goodness as quickly as possible. Who wouldn’t though right? Babies seem to make us all a little happier inside. Whether it’s their chubby little cheeks or that new baby smell, there is just something about them that makes us all warm and fuzzy inside.
When I had my first daughter I was young and didn’t have many friends or family close to me. So, fortunately, with her, we weren’t bombarded as soon as we got home. However, that wasn’t the case with our second child, but something different happened the second time.
When we came home from the hospital we didn’t have to worry about cooking meals for the first week. We had friends bringing us food and baby things. It wasn’t something we asked for, but it was something that our friends felt the need to do for us.
When it comes to bringing a new baby into the world there are so many things you can do so your loved one can spend more time focusing on herself and her new baby.
You shouldn’t go to a new mom empty handed. You will get so much more time to love on the baby that you so want to get your hands on if you just follow my advice, but don’t expect to be allowed in on the first visit.
If you visit her at the hospital:
- Take her a little gift. It doesn’t matter if you bought her a baby shower gift. Put together a small gift bag of things like lotion, chap stick, magazines, water, and power snacks like trail mix. One of my most favorite gifts I received with baby #2 was this wonderful little postpartum recovery kit from Earth Mama Angel Baby. I love, love, loved it. With that little kit, I received this all natural nipple butter.
- Buy an extra pack of diapers for the new baby. She can never have too many! Just make sure you take a gift receipt so she can exchange them if they aren’t exactly what she wants.
- Bring a gift for the siblings. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. Even a deck of Uno cards or an inexpensive board game would do the trick. The siblings are always forgotten about but don’t let them fool you, they want to be included in the gifts too. Our oldest daughters favorite big sister gift was her Trouble game.
- Bring the new dad a neck pillow. Chances are he is sleeping much better than mom, but he’s still not sleeping as well as he normally does. He will appreciate it!
- Bring food! Seriously, bring something for them to eat.
If you visit her at home:
- Bring her family a meal that they ACTUALLY like. Don’t forget to include sides and dessert as well. I’ve found it’s easier to use disposable casserole dishes so they don’t need to wash dishes. Score! This little gesture will go a long way in the baby holding department later!
- Fold a load of laundry for her. You know how many clothes the average family goes through a week. Even if it’s just one load and you don’t even put it away. Just the fact that she doesn’t have to fold it will earn you a lot of brownie points.
- Clean her kitchen. Heck, clean her house! She will refuse at first, but if you tell her to sit down and relax and just do it anyways she’s not going to forcibly remove you from her home. While you’re poking around her kitchen check out her pantry and get her a few meals planned out. Use my free printable meal planning toolkit to get it all organized.
- Watch the baby while she goes and takes a shower. Any new mom would thank you for this gesture.
- Be a good friend. Call her before going over to make sure you’re welcome. Ask if she needs anything. DO NOT just sit and hold the baby. Help her out! She just pushed a baby out and is probably exhausted. You know her boobs are hurting and she probably hasn’t showered since the hospital. If she’s comfortable with it maybe you could even let her go take a quick 30-minute nap.
Follow my advice and be a good friend that shows how much you care for her well-being and sanity. Don’t be the friend that just goes over to see the baby and treats the Mama like chopped liver. Don’t ignore the new Dad or siblings either. You will earn a lot of brownie points and baby snuggles if you show her how much you care about her, her family and her household. Do this for her and she may just turn around and do something for you in your time of need.
I’d love to hear from you! What are your favorite things to do for a new mom and her family once the baby arrives?
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