It’s all about balance in life. You hear it everywhere now. Companies advertise their job postings with work/life balance being in the pro column of reasons why you should work for them. You go to Pinterest and see thousands of articles written on the subject. The truth of the matter is families have been trying to find balance in life for centuries. In my humble opinion, it’s only becoming an issue because as parents we want to be everywhere and do everything.
Between the household [which is a job of it’s own], the children, managing your relationship with your significant other, taking care of yourself and lastly working it seems like we are all stressed out maniacs looking for an exit.
Why is this? Why are we like this? Why does it seem like we are having such an issue finding balance in life?
I think I know why and I have only in the last several years started to really change my way of thinking.
I think it’s because we don’t know how to say no. Once we have children everything is turned upside down. Do you remember that life before kids when you could get up and live life by chance? You could go to all 5 of those parties you have been invited to this week? Yeah me neither. It’s but a faint memory.
Now we have kids and everything has changed. Nothing is about us as individuals anymore and I’m afraid it never will be. Scheduling time for yourself or your spouse has become normal.
Then it hit me. I don’t have to do it all. I can say no. What a wonderful little word. No.
We don’t have to be at every party, family event or weekend bar-b-que our friends are putting on. Yes, it’s nice to get out and socialize but we don’t have to go. There are so many things in our lives that need attention that we have to find a clear path to maintaining them all. The car needs to be worked on, the yard needs to be mowed, the taxes need to be paid and you can only drop it off between 9-5… The kids have a play, game or recital to attend. I can’t possibly be everywhere and do all of these things that need to be done.
I don’t think there is a magical answer to finding balance in life, but learning to say no could be a start. So here are a few things to help figure out this whole balance in life thing…
Figure out what your goals are for the year.
Do you plan to travel? Do you want to throw any parties at your house? Do you have a major life event coming up like a new baby? What about your job? Do you think there is a possibility of a new job or are you confident with where you are at currently? Do you have any major medical events coming up? Those are just a few things to look at when planning your year out. You don’t need to start in January either. You can do this at any time.
This is important because if you have any hope of saying no to the barrage of events that will indeed come your way, then you need to have clear priorities in line. Make sure you communicate these with your family. I can tell you from personal experience the closest relatives to us are 1-2 hours away and they know we won’t make that drive every weekend at the drop of a hat. Without clear priorities, you won’t find the balance in life you’re seeking.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Seriously, just stop it. It is doing you no good. Sure there are other people out there that seem like they can do it all. Trust me they have their faults as well. What you don’t realize is their closets have skeletons just like yours. It does you no good to compare yourself to anyone else in any aspect of your life. Not even your spouse. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Do the best you can with what you have.
Learn when to ask for help.
No seriously, I cannot possibly keep my entire house clean and organized, family fed and work 40+ hours a week without help. I have a friend that helps me get my kid off the school bus when I need it. My husband helps me around the house when I need him to do so. From time to time he knows when I need the help and doesn’t bother waiting for me to ask. Whether it’s asking for help with the kids, house, maintenance issues, etc. Learn when to ask for help!
Be grateful, be present.
When you have decided to attend one of the invites you have been extended or one of the many children’s activities you have on your schedule you should be present. Be grateful that you were given the opportunity and actually be there. Someone appreciates you enough to extend that invitation. Put the distractions away and enjoy the moment. If we are always thinking about what we have to do when we get home or tomorrow after work then how can we ever let go of the stress and just enjoy life? Stop living for the next thing and start living for the right now.
Finding balance in life isn’t figuring out how to juggle it all. It’s figuring out what’s important to you and your family. You have goals, ambitions, hopes & dreams. So many times we are living for the next thing when there is something fabulous right in front of us.
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Take the opportunity to live intentionally and be in the moment.
What do you think is the answer to finding a better balance in life? At home, work, in between. I’d love to hear from you.
Affirmations for Motherhood
Breathe life into your journey through motherhood with these affirmations.