Be A Confident Mom
It’s a typical weekday; the alarm clock goes off for the 3rd time of the morning. You roll over and decide you need to get your morning started. Morning prayers are said, your quick scroll through Facebook is complete; you know, you must check in to see what you missed as you slept. You can now officially get out of bed, jump in the shower, get dressed and head down to the kitchen to get things going before your family awakens.
As you stand in the kitchen finishing up breakfast and making lunches, your husband grabs his coffee, kisses you and heads out the door. Next, your children head down. You stand to watch as they eat their breakfast, chatter, bicker and say, “She’s looking at me. Tell her to stop!” You calmly tell them to finish up and just to stop looking at one another.
The Dust Begins To Settle
Finally, the moment of silence. Everyone is out of the house, and you have time to yourself before starting your daily routine or as you sit in the parking lot for a moment before heading into work, but something begins to happen. That single tear starts to run down your cheek. You start to feel unappreciated, unaccomplished.
No one notices the struggles you have as a mom. Many don’t realize you feel isolated and alone. No one thinks a mother can have low self-esteem. Well, let me tell you, it happens. There’s a mom you pass at the bus stop, at the school drop off line, even that well put together soccer mom, or maybe it’s you.
We as moms constantly worry about our children and their needs. We tend to put our feelings to the side to protect everyone else in the home. This leaves our feelings and needs in the wind. As we gather with other moms and listen to the “perfect” lives, they live. We sometimes begin self-doubt, feeling as though we are not up to par in our parenting, professional lives, and personal lives. The comparison of our children’s milestones creeps in as we sit around talking to our mom friends and hearing all the glorious things their kids are accomplishing.
Don’t Allow Low Self-Esteem To Creep In
Low self-esteem begins to overtake us. The way we think and feel about ourselves are no longer positive, but negative. Instead of being proud of who are as a mom, being proud of how we raise our children and their accomplishments we start to think negatively of ALL aspects of our mommy life. Moms, don’t forget YOU are the cement that holds the entire house together. And let me just say this, WE ARE STRONG! YOU ARE STRONG!
Rather if you are a working mother or a stay at home mother, be proud of what you do. Being a mother isn’t easy. Trust me; I understand about the feeling of validation. The sense of receiving that review from your boss telling you that you are doing a great job. The feeling of having someone pat you on the back. But do you know where your biggest and most important performance review comes from? That’s right! That little voice that constantly says, “mommy.” Those little hands that knock the milk over. The eye roll and huffing from that tween or teen. The snore from your husband as you stay up tossing and turning at night. Why are these the BEST reviews? Simply put, they need and love you very much. The hugs you receive and the messes made are all the seal of approval you need.
So as you go throughout your day as Mommy, be sure to tell yourself how AMAZING you are. Tell yourself that you ROCK! Also, take some time away from being Mom and be yourself. Take a couple of hours each month to get out without the kids and do something fun. Treat yourself to a new outfit or hairdo.
Every day, tell yourself how wonderful you are and that you are doing a fantastic job.
I want to hear from you! Are you a confident mom? Do you let your guilt creep in and lower your self-esteem? We want to hear from you! Leave a comment below and tell us what you do to build your confidence as a Mom. Don’t forget to grab the affirmations for motherhood printable for free!
Sybil is a mother of three beautiful girls and a wife to a U.S. Sailor. You can find her over at A Mom’s Blog talking about the reality of life or over at Preschool2Teen promoting self-esteem, anti-bullying & education in our youth. She loves spreading the real of life, love, and kindness to others. In a nutshell, she enjoys sharing her story and letting others know that they Are Not Alone.
Affirmations for Motherhood
Breathe life into your journey through motherhood with these affirmations.