Our oldest daughter has never had a bedtime routine. She has never had a specific bedtime or a routine until it was time for her to transition into Kindergarten. It’s no secret that in some cases allowing children stay up and not fight them to bed is less stressful. For us that was the case. However, something magical happened when we set a specific bed time for both of our daughters.
My husband and I found that setting a routine and a specific time for bed for both girls allowed us to have more time to ourselves to unwind in the evening.
- We had more time for self-care.
- We could binge watching Netflix shows that weren’t suitable for children.
- We could even just have time for us to talk openly with one another about our hopes, dreams or what was bothering us that day.
I was able to get things done around the house that the kids would get in the way of me doing while they were up. I could even take a long hot bath without both girls wanting to join me like it was a swimming pool. Suddenly my husband and I could make the 1-2 hours before bed about us.
Every couple needs that time together. It’s crucial for every relationship and for each person as an individual to have uninhibited time to just unwind and let the stresses of each day go.
Then I ran across an article all about this family’s bedtime routine.
It talked about why they love bedtime and it really sparked something with me. Even today Nat’s routine consists of brushing her teeth and getting into bed for the night. She usually falls asleep really quickly but the time leading up to her actually getting in bed is riddled with arguments. This time is usually very stressful for both of us and it ends with my husband bringing his stern voice out and Nat sulking her way off to bed.
That’s when I took this article and ran with it.
In her article Wendy talks about a time called “Room On and Lights Off.” During this time her children settle down and do something in their beds that soothes and relaxes them and teaches them to be “content by themselves.” And how wonderful is next this thought?!
“Kids need quiet time to rest their minds and souls.”
Seriously, as adults we need time like this so why wouldn’t our children? With so many things in our children’s lives that keep them going all day, they just need a little time to be still and do something relaxing. I have tried for years to get my daughter to just be okay with being by herself doing various tasks or just playing in her room.
After the Room On time comes the Lights Off time. When it’s Lights Off her kids say prayers and good nights and that’s it. Mom & Dad are off to be adults and do whatever they need to do.
How wonderful is that? I urge you to go read her article about her family’s routine and why they love bedtime so much. I have started to implement something like this for our girls to rid our evenings of that last little bit of stress.
Bedtime shouldn’t be stressful. It should be a relaxing time that leads to magical dreams. By setting up something like this for our kids it should allow them to rest better and give their brains and bodies time to recharge. This allows them to perform better in their daily lives.
OUR BEDTIME ROUTINE
Our bedtime routine is simple. At 7 pm we start by reading stories. We really love story time. Often times we will play a little in their rooms. During this time we get our bathroom routine out of the way as well. Our oldest loves to fill out her routine printable that I made for her. Then by 8 pm the girls are down for the night. What a relief it is! We don’t have arguments anymore. They just know it’s time for bed when the alarm on my phone goes off.
So what do you do for your children in the evenings for their bedtime routines? Do you have battles like I do or do your kids love bedtime?
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