This weeks post comes from a dear friend a Sarah Prince of My Natural Baby Birth.
The cost of having a baby is argued about all the time. But in reality, the cost of having a baby could be completely free too, depending on your lifestyle and where you live.
But all in all, most of us moms go through that nesting period and still want to plan ahead. How much should I spend on this or that? What is most important, really?
Here are some of the best things I’ve implemented in keeping sane with the costs of having a baby. It’s not necessarily about spending the least or saving the most beforehand. It’s about finding balance within the entire experience.
Getting Help From Others
Now I don’t mean hiring out a nanny or expecting your mother to watch your child 24/7. I’m talking about gracefully accepting the generosity from others while you’re pregnant or postpartum. That could be from a number of things:
- Asking for things you want/need at your baby shower when someone throws you one
- Take the gifts offered and put them to use, even if you don’t like them
- Don’t turn down an offer of help around the home with cooking or cleaning
- Inquire about free resources in your community or church you may be able to use
If you’re in need of something, just ask. I’m sure there is someone who would be willing to help provide an item or service. Or they know someone who does.
Save With Expenses That Matter To You
If you’re a penny pincher, coupon clipper, ad-scouring mama … then go right ahead! You can find great deals on brand new items for your baby.
If you don’t mind used or secondhand items, then visiting your local Salvation Army or donation center can turn up some valuable finds at the time.
You have to weigh the balance between what you’re willing to want to spend on something brand new, versus the absolute necessities you won’t ever have used.
Brand new or used, there are little-known ways to save on baby gear that you should explore:
- Don’t even search for the things you don’t feel you really need
- Find savings in ways for must have items like diapers
- Ask others who may not even need their baby items anymore
I was able to get two entire carseats and strollers from a lady in my neighborhood completely free! I had posted on Facebook asking if anyone was donating those items sometime soon and ended up with exactly what I wanted without spending a few hundred dollars.
But for things like disposable diapers and wipes, you may have to do some more math. Consider a few questions:
- Would you prefer automatic delivery of diapers (like with Amazon Family) to save you the time and mental energy?
- Or would you rather use ads to buy whatever was the best savings each week?
It’s really up to you what is worth more.
Saving On Medical Expenses
Love it or hate it, the nice thing right now with health insurance is that your baby’s well visits and your pregnancy visits are covered automatically.
Without insurance that isn’t the case. But it may depend on the health of your family and time of life.
When you’re pregnant, you can save significantly by how you choose to give birth. The more natural your birth and the more removed you are from a facility, the less expensive it is. For example, with a water birth in your own home.
If you require a specialist and are in a situation where there are limited options, do you research with your provider and insurance to figure out the best rates? Simply switching to a midwife from your OBGYN can save thousands for even more personalized care.
Save Your Sanity
At the end of the day, sometimes the money doesn’t even matter. It depends on your relationship with your money. But it’s how you are in your state of being as a mother that matters in the end.
This is my plug for making sure that you’re saving your livelihood with children around with an extra emphasis on personal care and finding time for yourself. So many of us push aside those things that will give us breathing room and a little joy from self-care. But it’s truly worse in the long run.
Lately, I’ve been spending more money on myself. And I cannot believe I went years without! I’ve been getting a massage monthly. Indulging in a dark chocolate treat a few times a month. I’ve brought home flowers for the table more this summer than I ever have in the past decade.
I bought some new makeup last week and found $100 worth of clothes brand new for just $15! And how do I feel? Not guilty, that’s for sure!
The peace and contentment I have had recently with a little pampering of myself, lightening the mood in my home, and savoring sweet indulgences … it has created a space with my children where my sanity and mindset is saved completely.
Spend On The Things That Are Worth It
I look back on when I had my first baby. I was scrimping and saving and trying to do all of the things without even taking the time to put on makeup. And you know what? I never want to go back to that. I want the things like date nights at home with the hubby.
Spending a little money on precious things of joy is worth it in the end. Sure, don’t go blow $20,000 on a new car with money you don’t have, claiming it’s for personal and added car seat safety. But you know what I mean.
All of the clothes that we’ve been gifted or bought, we’ve been able to use them with all of our children. Those car seats and strollers? They’ve gotten their fair share of use. The blankets and beds … they were an investment that has lasted.
The toys and the ‘stuff’ … they have not. So it’s up to you. You can find balance in saving and spending with getting ready for a baby and into the years afterward. The bottom line is your contentment with all of it.
Never doubt that YOU can master your divine potential and have the natural baby birth that you desire and deserve! See my top recommendation for your success >> The Confident Mother Birthing Course. I’m Sarah, mother of three little boys, wife to my love of 11 years, sister to many, daughter of God.
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