Dearest Stay At Home Mama,
Breathe. Chances are your home is a wreck. There are toys everywhere and your kids are probably half dressed.
Maybe you have a sink full of dishes, dirty clothes overflowing out of every basket and children that need to be fed.
Take a step back and let go of the stress you are hanging onto because it will be okay.
You probably have this thought in your mind right now that you need to do it all. You are also probably thinking that since your husband is bringing home the paycheck that you need to take care of everything around the house.
Stop it! You didn’t vow to do all the housework and parenting in your home. You have a partner for a reason.
Now dig deep into yourself and try to understand why you are feeling the way you’re feeling. Is it guilt? Fear? Shame?
Most of us are afraid to ask for help knowing your husband just worked an 8+ hour day and you were at the house.
However, being a stay at home mom isn’t a walk in the park. The children often take that beautiful to-do list we had and wreck it, and that is okay!
Life gets away from us all too quickly and as moms, we really need to figure out how to recognize when we’ve taken on too much and how to ask for help.
Throw away the pride and dig deep. You are not the only parent in the house that can answer questions or discipline the children. You are definitely not the only one in the house that can run a load of laundry through the wash.
The good news is you have someone to help you out when you need it. You are a perfectly capable woman and by no means are you incapable of handling this on your own. However, the nice thing about having a spouse, a partner is that they are there to help you out when you need it.
The next thing we need to come to terms with as moms is the need for perfection. You don’t have to make a hot meal for every mealtime. You do not need to entertain your children the entire day. You do not need to have a perfectly cleaned home.
You do what you can do and you roll with it.
Just know that you are not alone and you must take care of yourself as well as everyone else. If you do not have anything to give then you can’t possibly dish it out. Remember that taking time for yourself and letting someone else take the reins for a while isn’t admitting defeat. It’s quite the opposite actually. It’s showing sign of strength. Strength in knowing when you’ve had too much and need a mental, emotional or physical break.
So tonight, as you finish preparing dinner and you, are getting ready to clean up the kitchen ask your family to pitch in. Ask your children if they are old enough to help out to clear their own plates. Ask your husband to take over the kitchen.
While they take care of that you should go to your favorite room in the house and relax. Take a bath, pick up a book or turn on your favorite show. Just remember that it’s okay to ask for help!
I have been there and I still have a problem with it. Just remember it’s okay to ask for help. Grab my affirmations for motherhood printables and leave them as little reminders around the house!
Affirmations for Motherhood
Breathe life into your journey through motherhood with these affirmations.