Do you wish you knew how to be a patient mom?
I know it’s something I’ve been working on for years. In fact, I’ve been attempting to learn how to be a patient mom for about 5 years now. You see I didn’t hit the inpatient phase until my daughter hit her twos and started getting into everything thing under the sun.
I’ve always been lacking in the patience department but I never realized just how bad it was. This is not what I want for myself or my kids. I’ve talked about my issues with being an angry mom before.
I didn’t really think I had a problem until I started hearing my husband say, “Heather, you need to be more patient with her.” I was hearing this come out of his mouth too many times to count each week.
This led to a lot of nights lying in bed feeling guilty for the things I had said or done. Not the way you want to end your night, right?
So I went on a self-discovery phase. I was already journaling for various things so why not start writing down feelings and actions when I had a burst of impatience?
It took a lot of tears and too many steps backward and I still have my moments but for the most part, I’m learning to use my skills.
HOW TO BE A PATIENT MOM
- Practice gratitude. This one didn’t really come until much, much later in my journey. Only in the last year really. I’ve made it part of my morning routine to write down a few things that I’m grateful for. Not all of them have to do with being a mom but these are really great to come back to and read again when I’m feeling stressed.
- Be a listener. This one can be hard since most people are thinking of responses before they’ve even heard the other person out. It’s not even listening to the words coming out of their mouths so much as it is their actions and emotions. There is probably more going on with your child than you realize. You just have to listen and observe. This is key when learning how to be a patient mom.
- Don’t take things personally. This one will be very hard for some, but I think it’s a skill to learn. Often times our children aren’t acting out just to push your buttons. So stop taking things too seriously. Just use little reminders to help you along the way.
- Ask questions. This one goes along with number 2 really well but when you listen and hear things you will start to ask questions. Maybe the reason your child is causing you to be impatient isn’t that they are bored. Maybe they have some anxiety about a friend, class or sport. Just be careful and don’t make them feel like you’re interrogating them.
- Take care of yourself. This one is huge. I’ve found the best thing I can do to keep my patience levels up is to take time for myself. Learning how to be a patient mom is learning how to say you’ve had enough. Take that time to do things you like or nothing at all.
- Plan & prioritize. This could be a game changer if you’re not already doing this. Figure out what is important to you and forget the rest unless it truly makes you happy. Don’t like those park dates where your kids cause more trouble than good? Stop going. Kids crafts stressing you out? Stop doing them. Plan your week and prioritize what is the most important for you and your family.
Learning how to be a patient mom will be a journey that will take some time but the person you find underneath it all is so worth it.
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