In this busy world where access to technology is readily available it’s really easy to get caught up in a comparison. As a mom, we often question ourselves and our abilities to mother our children. That’s why it is so utterly important for us to find fulfillment as a mom in a world of comparison.
In This Episode:
- “Comparisonitis” and the guilt that comes with it
- “The Plight of the Modern Mom”
- Remembering the things we do right
- Celebrating other women’s accomplishments
- Comparison is less nature and more nurture; no one can really be blamed, but something happens as we grow up that starts this internal dialogue telling us that we’re not enough.
- With motherhood, we’re now responsible for other lives in addition to our own. We want to do a good job, and we want our children to avoid the struggles and insecurities that we’ve experienced for ourselves.
- When we see someone and start comparing ourselves to them, we tend to run away and think that THEY are the ones doing everything right . . . and we forget about all the things that we do right ourselves.
- We hear messages about who we are and what we should be from so many different places, often without even realizing it.
- We need to regularly remind ourselves of the things that make us good moms, so that when moments of comparison and guilt come, we have these things we can call to mind to fight those feelings.
- If we open up and share what we’re feeling and/or afraid of, more often than not you’ll find that they’re feeling those things too. You’re not alone.
- Trust yourself! Trust your intuition.
- Consider your values and the things that are important to you and to your family. The family next door probably doesn’t have the exact same priorities as you do, so why waste time comparing yourself to how they’re doing things? If you’re both trying to honor your values, and your values are different, then you SHOULD be doing things differently.
- Guilt comes not only from comparing ourselves to others, but also from assuming that other people are comparing themselves to us.
- Learn how to celebrate with other women’s accomplishments. It’s hard to focus on judging yourself when you’re focusing on praising others.
- Take the time to “date” other moms. You’re not going to be friends with everyone, but you CAN find a few good people who are going to be there for you, encourage you, support you, and be honest with you.
- “At the end of the day, we all have our own strengths and come to the table or playground with different skills . . . and that’s okay.”
Where You Can Find Angie:
- Website: www.angiemartincoaching.com
- Facebook Page: www.facebook.com/journeytojoyfulliving
- Facebook Group: The Joy Village
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/thejoyvillage
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